There are many people fighting for their constitutional
rights and equality form others. There
is a part of that fight that should not even had been fought but it is the
biggest issue in the front. The same sex
marriage issue. Let me first start off
by saying that I have been marred to my wife for over 7 years and we have children
together. Our children are growing up
with their mother and farther and are getting everything that they need as
kids. Marriage should be sacrate a bond
between a men and a women. That is natural,
I cannot have a son to carry on my name if I marry a men. That just wouldn’t work even though a same
sex marriage could actually be successful rise a child. I believe they could but is it right, and how
would that child be touch. Would they be
influenced to have a homosexual lifestyle like their parents? Before I could think about all that I thought
about my relationship with my wife and it felt disrespected. Marriage is just not a would or a title it is
a blessing form God and I have been bless with kids and a family. Same sex marriages could never go through the
natural things my marriage to through. Marriage
is something you have to work at every day and all the time I do feel bad for
those people that are of the same sex to go through decimation or any type of hate
crime. A crime is a crime and passing
any type of marriage law that is for two men or two woman to lay and marry each
other is a crime in my book. If you
believe if the bible and our Savior Jesus Christ it was written “From the
beginning of the creation, God made them male and female. For this cause a man
shall leave his father and mother; and shall cleave to his wife.” (Mark
10:6-7).
I have decided to write a commentary on the most recent post from my classmate Jonathan Russel on his blog Tasteless Machine. He also decided to write a post on same sex marriage, but I found it interesting because we have opposing points of view. I would like to start by saying that I am a strong believer in the fact that everyone is absolutely entitled to their opinion and I respect yours. If this is what you believe in, it is absolutely your right. However the issue at hand is not whether or not same sex marriage is right or wrong. Whether it is a matter of religion or opinion, the issue is whether it should be legal in the United States. I personally have a strong support for the separation of church and state. This is one of the reasons people fled from England to what would become the United States, to enjoy the freedom to practice whatever religion they chose. That is one of the things that make this country what it is, the freedom.
ReplyDeleteOne thing you mention in your article is that a same sex marriage could never go through the natural things your marriage to your wife goes through. I strongly disagree with this statement. One thing I have found, is that most relationships are the same, whether they are between a man and wife, a wife and wife, a husband and husband, a father and daughter, a sister and brother, friendships, and even roommates. There are always ups and downs. There are always rough times. But there is also always love. My friends who are females and I go through similar things that a romantic couple would go through. We fight, we make up, and we have fun together. The point I am trying to get at here, is that EVERY relationship, no matter what kind it is, has the same complex.
Another thing you bring up in your article is that same sex couples getting married makes your marriage to your wife feel disrespected. What I take from this is to mean that you feel it makes your marriage not mean as much as it did before same sex marriage. I personally believe that your marriage certificate holds whatever value you and your wife place in it. If the two of you have a strong relationship with each other and highly value the fact that you are married, I believe that is all a person should need. Same sex couples’ getting married has no effect on your relationship with your wife. Your marriage certificate doesn't hold any less value.
It is clear that your opinion on same sex marriage being wrong stems from your core beliefs, particularly your religious ones. So what I say to you is, if you are doing what you believe to be right and you are comfortable and confident in your relationship with your God, then that (in my opinion) should be enough. Why judge them and restrict their rights as human beings entitled to them by the very foundation of this country? Like I said in my article, these people are not doing anything to harm anyone. They are consenting adults. The things we have that are illegal, are illegal because of the fact that someone is doing something to someone else or their property that they did not consent to. I understand that this is a crime in your book, just like adultery is in mine. However, it is not a crime. Just because I think that adultery is wrong, does not mean it should be illegal.
So, I hope you read this article and at least just try to see the other side's point of view. I am not trying to change your beliefs or tell you, you are wrong. I am just trying to help you understand the point of view, just as I understand yours.
thank you for taking the time to respond on my blog on same sex marriages. I respect you views and you make very good points. I was trying to make a point that to me and my views and opinions that same sex marriage is the wrong thing for human nature. I believe in God and that motivates my view on same sex marriage, justt because you can say its right or you want to do it don't mean it is right. When I wrote in my post about same sex marriages can't be like my marriage is because my wife and I can make natural children for use to form a family. I think I may have been a little insensitive in my post when I say that about natural family don't think that I think either are better than the other. People are people, good and bad I respect thoughts that want to be married because marriage is a wonderful thing. But how fare can a same sex marriage be right. Marriage is honor, fun, happy and sad but most of all you must work at it. You are right about I should not compare my marriages to no other marriages because I don't have too, I have confidence in my marriage. i have believes but what about those who don't, what about those children who become confused. I just think same sex marriages are wrong and if American believe that we should and it should be a normal thing is foolish. If that's the case then underage arraigned marriages should be, multi plural marriages should be, insex should be, and on and on. Where is the honor of marriages with those crazy situation, that is my point.
Deletep.s. I truly would not disrespect anyone or there marriage or family
I'd like to respond to Jonathan Russel on his topic of same-sex marriage. I'd like to point out that Christianity didn't create marriage. Egyptians, ancient Romans, ancient Greeks, etc. all had some form of marriage in place. Additionally, I'd like to add that the Bible doesn't JUST define marriage between a man and a woman. It also defined it as a woman and her rapist; a man, woman, and concubines; a man and his brother's widow; a man, woman, and her slaves; and not to mention all of the polygamy that you can find in the Bible. So, please don't tell me that MY "lifestyle" is unnatural.
ReplyDeleteAdditionally, if someone tried to influence you to be same-sex oriented, would it work? I bet you, along with science, said "no." This is because your sexual orientation is determined by genetics and hormones from the carrying mother. So just as you could never choose to be gay, we could never choose to be straight.
We are not asking you to agree with us or be gay, we are asking you to give us our rights to marry. Prohibiting us from getting married does not benefit you in any way, it only hurts us.
"Most research studies show that children with two moms or two dads fare just as well as children with heterosexual parents. In fact, one comprehensive study of children raised by lesbian mothers or gay fathers concluded that children raised by same-sex parents did not differ from other children in terms of emotional functioning, sexual orientation, stigmatization, gender role behavior, behavioral adjustment, gender identity, learning and grade point averages. Where research differences have been found, they have sometimes favored same-sex parents. For example, adolescents with same-sex parents reported feeling more connected at school. Another study reported that children in gay and lesbian households are more likely to talk about emotionally difficult topics, and they are often more resilient, compassionate and tolerant. The same concerns that face many heterosexual parents when they are deciding to have children also face same-sex parents including time, money, and responsibilities of parenthood. Likewise, many of the parenting tasks faced by same-sex parents are similar to those faced by heterosexual parents, such as providing appropriate structure for children, while also being warm and accepting, setting limits, teaching open and honest communication, healthy conflict resolution, and monitoring of child’s peer network and extracurricular activities. Some differences may include adapting to different types of family forms, the impact of social stigma on the family, and dealing with extended family members who may not be supportive of same-sex parenting."
Open up your mind. Your Bible also teaches you acceptance.
Sorry if I was instinctive or rude or insulting about you or your lifestyle. I do not and would not have a problem with anyone being gay. I just saying it’s not natural because if two dude where together or two girls together cannot make babies, you need a real marriage, but you are right. You are right I should not try or cannot change your mind or views and I respect them but you know I believe in the bible and it does have something about marriage by a man and woman. The Lord made Adam and Eve, not Adam and Stevie and there are many verses in the bible that deal with a man and a women, and there marriage God made woman for man we need one anther this is what I believe I see it every day look read this look it up. Genesis 2:22-24 22 And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.23 And Adam said, This [is] now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. , Mark 10:6 - 10:9 6 But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female.7 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; 8 And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.9 What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
DeleteI just believe because of my religion and it is real this is why I feel strong about it. We all have sinned before because we live in the flesh so there might be different men and woman in the bible who sin sexually but the Lord fronds on it. Last verse about marriage in the bible with man (husbands) and woman (wife) Colossians 3:18 - 3:19 18 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.19 Husbands, love [your] wives, and be not bitter against them.
I don’t want to hold back anyone from being happy and getting married but if I had to take sides I believe that same sex marriages should not be. I know a gay couple and we deployed to Iraq together, I been know her for over 5 years she is like a sister to me and she is now with another woman that was in our unit together, I have family members too. I see your way and it does not seem fair when you have a partner for many of years and you cannot receive the same benefits as a married couple would even though the work and love was there. I can understand the frustration and people can get crazy nasty to each other thank you for seeing my side and I see your side but if there was a vote you know what I'm going to mark.
And yes I have been taught acceptance and to pray for my brothers and sisters.